Category Archives: links i love

Stop it.


My brain is melting a little bit today — because today the book that I am a contributing writer for — A book that contains a poem, a poem of mine, a poem of mine that a legitimate editor at a legitimate press thought  was legitimately good enough to go into that book –  well now, that book  is now on pre-sale from effin’ Amazon.  I mean, I know, I could sell a gallon of milk  on Amazon — but oh em gee people, this is for real, and I can barely hold in my squeals of delight.

The book, The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood to Fit Reality, is a collection of essays put together by Avital Norman Nathman. Avi keeps her own blog at The Mamafesto, but also has a regular series, “The Femisphere,” for Ms. Magazine’s site, as well as a regular feminist parenting column, “Mommie Dearest,” for The Frisky. 

This collection of essays takes a realistic look at motherhood and provides a platform for real voices and raw stories, each adding to the narrative of motherhood we don’t tend to see in the headlines or on the news.

To say I am thrilled to be part of this collection is probably more than obvious to those of you who know me, my politics, and my academic background — But you should take a look at who I’m in the company of — and then I’ll let you know that besides thrilled – I’m pretty freakin’ humbled.  Psst – did you see how Christy Turlington, founder of Every Mother Counts (and ok, you know, a super model), is doing the forward – did I mention the part where I am squeeing like a little kid right now?

Oh and hey, if say your politics don’t align with amazon and its selling practices (I don’t judge y’all, I’m in so in bed with the amazon devil), you can actually pre-order the book from an independent book seller.  Yay indie book stores, you with your ambient music and nooks and corners –I love you too.

So – yeah, I’m going to be in a book, and it’s for pre-sale on amazon — and I would be pleased as punch if you picked up a copy. Now excuse me, while I flounce around the room in my pink tutu giving out little crazy shouts of joy. What? Not your image of a radical feminist – ahwell – it’s mine- radical, mama of two, sometimes poet, sparkly t-shirt wearing, public school teaching,  tutu having, twirly, humbled as hell, feminist.

Billy Collins and Trey Anastasio and weighing the occurrence of things


Perhaps there are days we can deny our nature – or perhaps there are days we just accept it – neither one is easier than the other one. They are all just days. Perhaps there are days we can believe the words coming out of our mouths,  and perhaps there are days we are unimpressed by our own bullshit.  Neither is a better solution, they are all just words.
What I’m saying is – as much as I try to convince myself something isn’t true – turns out it probably is —

Needed – a Billy Collins Poem and a Trey Ansastasio song.
Found – a Billy Collins Poem and a Trey Anastasio song.

by Billy Collins

If there is only enough time in the final
minutes of the twentieth century for one last dance,
I would like to be dancing it slowly with you,

say, in the ballroom of a seaside hotel.
My palm would press into the small of your back
as the past hundred years collapsed into a pile
of mirrors or buttons or frivolous shoes,

just as the floor of the nineteenth century gave way
and disappeared in a red cloud of brick dust.
There will be no time to order another drink
or worry about what was never said,

not with the orchestra sliding into the sea
and all our attention devoted to humming
whatever it was they were playing.

From THE ART OF DROWNING, University of Pittsburgh Press, 1995

Apologies – you will have to click through for Valentine, by Trey – you should though. Or shouldn’t you? Neither choice is better, it’s just a decision.

The Good Stuff – And the Old Stuff.


So, I spend a  fair amount of time in the social media sphere – and this week, I spent three nights in bed with my laptop on one side, my phone in the other, and the DNC on till almost midnight.  But I also read about football, and Hunger Action Month, and I did a happy dance when I saw a new poem from one of my favorites.  So that’s all here, along with some music. If you’ve come here for my old crap, scroll to the bottom for all of that.

Good stuff I’ve found this week-

First Sunday of  regular season football – and a nice little article about who to stash on your fantasy football bench till mid season

Speaking of football – you must read this – The Viking’s Chris Kluwe defending The Raven’s Brendon Ayanbadejo for standing up in support  same-sex marriage – This shit is brilliant.

Billy Collins has a new poem out in Poetry Magazine.  Swoon.

Ten really bad movies on Mental_Floss

Terrifying fair foods from HuffPo (I have horrifying Friday with my kids at school where I show them weird things from the inter-webs for five mins at the end of class. I watched the fried butter video in this piece with each class, and each time I felt ill for another hour after. You’ve been warned).

Conversely, it’s Hunger Action Month – and one of my two favorite local charities, The Western Mass Food Bank has a calendar for September of things you can do to help the food insecure in your area.

The music I can’t stop listening to-

The one that makes me cry – every.time. Even though I say it won’t, and then it does. But I’ve listened to it eighty-seven times this week anyhoo –

The one that makes me smile every time – so I listen to it right after Florence makes me sob. I haven’t stopped listening to this for two weeks straight. Insanely good.

Best blurbs of the week-

This time last year on Happy Valley Mama –

Sunset in the Valley Haiku

No Limits

Friday Afternoon Haiku

Two years ago –

Guest Blogger


Things I’ll Make Today

The ants and the grasshopper.

July Links I Love


New Game, gather all my posted links in one place, once a  month. Eh, why not.

OKGo’s too cool new video, All is Not Lost

The Beastie Boys as done by Sesame Street

On why to Raise the debt ceiling, from a Republican

More debt ceiling thoughts

One of my new favorite blogs, and a hysterical post why having a toddler is like being at a fraternity party.

American Lab Rescue – Where Callie came from, and where we got our foster dog who is now living happily in her new forever home.

links I love


One I’m suffering from crippling writer’s block – and to be honest, I’m okay with it right now.  With the new school year just 10 days away, my brain isn’t really into waxing poetic. Instead, I have dozens of ideas knocking around in my brain, and no desire to commit those ideas to the page.

Tonight, to help me along, I made a jar – a blog jar, like a chore jar, but you know for grown-ups with a freakish love of new media.  Tonight I picked links I love — so I’m passing on some good stuff I’ve stumbled across recently–

For the parenting and teacher types who stop by here, an interesting analysis of teen behavior.

For my fellow bleeding hearts, a link that’s been kicking around FB all day, a look at how hollowed the area of the new community center really is. By the way more on this soon, I’m kinda pissy about the first amendment thing, I’m entirely pissy how certain folks are making hay of this –

For my friends with too many tomatoes – a homemade tomato soup

Again for the teacher types – a woman with a lovely organized classroom – she is an elemntary teacher, but I’ve been working her tips in all summer.

Finally a little something that I’ve been dwelling on this week. Eminem’s  new video is absolutley one of the most beautiful videos I’ve seen in a long time.  But, as Jezebel puts it, “It’s not a public service announcement, it’s just a perspective.”

funny lady.


I’m just going to say it – I think Tina Fey is the freakin’ hilarious – and she might be the best thing on TV right now.  And while, I can’t openly choose between her and Jon Stewart,  I’m not going to get all 1950’s on you and say she’s pretty funny — for a woman.

I am going to get all elitist on you though, and tell you the best thing about Tina Fey is how god damn smart she is.

see for your self  . . .

Saturday Night Live – Sarah Palin Network – Video –

and if you’ve got it in you

Saturday Night Live – Update: Women’s News – Video –

just try not to pee. seriously.

wander – 23 of 365


sunny. warm enough for a sweatshirt in the daytime.  temperature at 10:38pm, 18°

In which – I spend much time with a mouse in one hand and a nursing baby in the other –    and in which, I may have spent most of the day hung over, and don’t have real energy for writing – places I’ve been this week.

The Pioneer Woman Cooks – oh good lord does she. not only does she cook, she take pictures of every step.  I’ve cooked a goodly amount of her recipes, and I’m rarely dissapointed.

Kelly Mom – I started a new medicine this week, and I found this site to have the most sane information about the safety of that drug, for me, a nursing mama.

Huffington Post – I am absolutely on self imposed news black out this week and next  — No national media, no political yapping — but all entertainment news is fair game, and with all the yapping about team CoCo,  Huffpo rarely dissapoints.

538 – Nate Silver knows everything. Everything.

Blue Mass Group – Mass progressive politics.

Apartment Therapy – if you could climb in to any one website and live there, it would be Apartment Therapy.  I spend most of my time on their nursery and kitchen site.